My friends carrying me while simultaneously tying my shoes! |
I attended Boston University for many of these reasons. It was a flat campus, close to all of my doctors and had very accessible buildings. Although, BU had a large campus there were many shuttles and public transportation options to help me maneuver the campus. Despite all of this, college can still be challenging. As a result of the stress of living in a new environment, not-stellar eating habits, late nights studying and much, much more walking, I battled continuous flares, 3 surgeries and constant treatment changes during college.
However, I made it through with not one, but two degrees (a BS and a MS in occupational therapy) and I learned some tips along the way.
- Pick the right college for you: As I mentioned BU was a huge campus, however, it worked for me because it had public transportation as well as school transportation options to help with my mobility. Some people may opt for a smaller campus where you only have one building to walk to.
- Make the connection with the school's disability service right away: BU had a lot of disability services to offer, but there were lots of steps to take to get anything done and it was often frustrating and time consuming. I learned how to advocate for myself better during this period. A smaller school may not have a disability office but you may be able to talk directly with your professors about accommodations.
- PACE yourself: This was one of the most important aspects of managing my JRA at college but also one of the hardest things to do. As a college student, you don't want to miss out on any experience but I often end up paying for busy weekends, with days not wanting to leave my bed.
- Adapt and Accommodate: If you are like me and can't pace yourself, learn ways to still enjoy all of your college experiences but with accommodations. For example, my friends would often walk over 2 miles to attend parties (in order to save precious subway money), however I knew if I spent my energy walking, I'd have no energy left to party. I frequently took the subway, cabs or school shuttles to meet them in order to save my energy for the night. I also used a wheelchair (while on spring break in Disney) because I knew there was no way I would be able to keep up and saved my energy to enjoy my vacation.
In Disney on spring break, a wheelchair
was necessary to pace myself - Don't be afraid to say no: By the time I was an upperclassman, I learned that I would rather have friends to my apartment (even if I had to bribe them with wine and food), so I could have a comfortable place to sit all night long but still be with my friends.
- Be open and honest to your friends: My friends were wonderful and tried to accommodate and help me as much as possible. They would even carry me if I was desperate! I was always honest to them when I was really hurting and they learned a lot about JRA as well.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help: One of the best ways I relieved stress and decreased my joint pain was to take baths. However, wanting to take a bath in my apartment meant cleaning the tub. After a long day of classes, that was the last thing I had the energy for. Luckily, I had an amazing roommate and friend and on one particularly achy day, I asked her to clean the tub for me and she did!
- Sometimes it sucks: My last point is somewhat hard to read, however, there were definitely nights when I felt left out, was flaring badly in pain, lonely or just felt bummed that I had JRA while in college. It's ok to have nights where you binge watch Sex and The City (eek, I feel old now) and some of your friends may even enjoy the excuse to stay in on a Friday night and join you. However, all experiences (whether they are good or bad) help define who you are as a person and who you become.
College with JRA can be hard, but it doesn't have to be impossible. I loved my college experience, even though my it was one of the hardest times to manage my JRA. I learned a lot about myself as a person, I learned how to manage my JRA better and I learned how to totally disregard everything and just be a college student. JRA be damned! Whatever your experience ends up being, make sure to make the most of it.
My all time favorite Patriot player, Teddy Bruschi, was doing a book signing, 1 week after I had knee surgery. The line was over an hour long, but I brought my crutches to wait to meet him! |